Now We Are Six

This morning Hannah turned six and I was reminded of Gretchen Rubin’s observation about parenting that “the days are long but the years are short.”  It has really been fascinating to see Hannah grow over the past six years.  Six years!

Here are six things you should know about Hannah:

1) She is SUPER dramatic.  The slightest thing can send her into paroxysms of joy or cast her into a slough of despair.  We are still working on how to turn that power into a force for good – I am confident that her enthusiasm and gusto will be a huge asset to her when she is in control of it.  Life with Hannah is always exciting and humorous.

2) She has a willing spirit of helpfulness.  I am often amazed at how much I can rely on Hannah to help me out, and she rarely complains about it.  I really value her sweet spirit.

3) She can memorize anything.  Hannah has a great memory, which is helpful for doing school work but also keeps us on our toes because she’s also quite good at synthesis and application of what she’s learned.  Sometimes this comes in the form of a delightful ability to draw a connection between what we’re talking about and something she heard in her history lesson, and sometimes it’s a sort of alarming realization that she picked up some disturbing line from a song she heard at the grocery store one time.  But mostly it’s a good thing.  :)

4) She has a great imagination.  Hannah can play for hours staging elaborate games of make believe with her dolls, other toys, and bits of whatnot like random rocks and sequins and toothpaste caps.  This means her room is rarely clean, but I remember playing that way as a kid and loving it so we usually let it go until things get really out of hand.

5) She writes funny stories.  Recently Hannah wrote a story about a game she was playing in her room, and the end of the tragic tale was the line, “It wuz a bad seen.”  :)  Spelling is queued up for school next semester!

6) She has a sweet heart.  Hannah loves to give us shoulder massages, always (well, almost always) wants to hug and kiss her siblings, and often goes into rhapsodies of   affectionate exclamations about her various family members (see #1).  She has a great ability to pick up on other people’s emotions and tries to make them feel better.  That is a good quality to have.

We love you, Hannah-cakes!  Happy birthday!

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The Year in Books 2011

I read 93 books in 2011 from a pretty even mix of topics ranging from fiction to spiritual life to business to parenting to education to marriage to self improvement.  When I reviewed the list, I picked out the 10 I most enjoyed and would most highly recommend.  The links below are to my longer reviews.

The Meaning of Marriage – If you only have time to read one book on marriage in your entire life, you should make it this one.

Find Your Strongest Life – This approach to understanding your personality as a set of strengths and figuring out how to apply them to your work, your family, and your goals is really helpful and empowering.

Chasing Daylight - An end-of-life memoir by a CEO who determined to live well is not depressing as you might expect.  It’s inspiring and thought-provoking.

Knowing God - This is one of the best books I’ve read about the Christian life – deep and convicting and challenging.

Story Engineering – If you write at all, you won’t fail to get something out of this book.  If you write fiction, you REALLY need it.

168 Hours - I read a lot of time management books, and this is one of the best.  Transformative.

Jesus Christ and the Life of the Mind - If you’ve ever thought about what it means to be a Christian and involved in intellectual life, you need to read this book.

Mindset – Understanding how mindset can impact your life, your relationships, your work, and your parenting will really help you to be more effective and compassionate.

The Latin-Centered Curriculum – This book about classical education is both an excellent apologetic for the method and a tremendously practical resource as you plan your children’s education, whether you homeschool or are just looking for supplemental enrichment.

Counterfeit Gods - This author has an amazing ability to pinpoint the blind spots of our culture and era.  I think most people would find this book illuminating and challenging.

If you’d like to read more book reviews check out what I read in 2011, or the year in books 2010, 2009, 2008, and 2007.

What were the best books you read in 2011?  Have you put together a list of books you’d like to read in 2012?

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How Full Is Your Bucket?

How Full Is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Work and Life is a short book about building people up by “filling their buckets” with thoughtful and appropriate encouragement and praise. You could probably read the book in about 20 minutes, but it does have some good points.

First, I was challenged to think about what type of feedback I most often give my children.  With small kids, some days feel like a constant barrage of “No!  Don’t touch that!  Don’t hit your sister!  Don’t whine!  Don’t tattle!” The book mentions a study conducted in 1925 that measured the effect of praise and criticism on children.  I was sobered to think of how often I criticize my children versus how often I give them thoughtful encouragement.  It takes a lot of effort to stop in the middle of something and, first of all, notice when things are going right, and second, verbalize that to the child.  There are some things I praise consistently, but I was challenged to think of other areas to encourage the kids when they do the right thing.  The study found that the ideal ratio of praise to criticism is 5:1.  That’s a lot of encouragement compared to negative statements, especially in a house full of the under 6 crowd!

The second point I found illuminating was the injunction to prevent bucket dipping – that is, to think about whether each of our interactions with others is positive or negative, and actively avoid being negative when that is possible.

Overall How Full Is Your Bucket? is a quick and somewhat helpful book, which I would recommend if you’re a fan of the self-help genre but would probably suggest as a library book rather than a purchase.

 

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Semester in Review

The school year never really goes exactly as planned for us, but this semester I think it turned out better than I planned out in August.  For background if you’re new here, this is our third year of homeschooling.  Hannah will be 6 in January, Jack is 4 1/2, and Sarah just turned 3.  This fall we added a couple of extra scheduling juggles, in that Hannah started taking ballet, we started going to a classical education co-op, and I have been working 40 hours a week (flexibly – you can read more about how that works here).  The main thing we added to our original plan was that we started following the Ambleside Online Year 1 readings to supplement the other things we’re working on.  We’ve read up to Week 20 on the Year 1 weekly schedule.  Overall, I’m really pleased with how things have gone.

Reading

All three kids are now working through The Ordinary Parent’s Guide to Teaching Reading.  Sarah is learning letters and letter sounds, Jack is reading well but still learning phonics rules (he’s on lesson 70), and Hannah is likewise getting phonics reinforcement while reading independently (she’s on lesson 145).  Hannah has been reading children’s books to her siblings, has read American Girl books on her own, and is taking turns reading paragraphs of Heidi with me.  Classical Conversations includes some English grammar memory work but, to be honest, I don’t find it very useful so we rarely go over it at home.  We will pick up more grammar in later years, I think.

Math

We switched to Saxon Math this year and it is working really well for us.  Hannah is about 90 lessons in to Saxon 1 and is very good at working independently on her lessons.  Jack does not have very good handwriting but was frustrated with the workbooks I gave him to practice writing numbers because, he said, “there’s no math in here!”  Because he listens in on Hannah’s work, he is familiar with addition and subtraction and knows all of the numbers to 100 (in some cases I think he’s faster at math than Hannah is) so I recently got him Saxon 1 as well.  He did 8 lessons in the first week and really seems to be making strides with writing his numbers now that there is a REASON to write them.  Sarah counts things but doesn’t really do math but she has learned the skip counting songs from Classical Conversations along with the others.

Science

Thank goodness for Classical Conversations so that we had science this fall!  The kids did experiments weekly, learned all about the human body, memorized helpful lists of things like the parts of the digestive system and whatnot, and seemed to enjoy it.  However, I was feeling like we needed to go deeper in science in some way, so I recently got Apologia Astronomy and we’ve been reading through that together.  I have the kids narrate every paragraph as we go to make sure they are getting it.  We are going very slowly, but are learning a lot.  The book is written in a Charlotte Mason style, so as a living book, not talking down to the kids or just giving dry facts.  We’re also reading Burgess’s Bird Book out loud, which is a living book about different types of birds, and the James Herriot books about a veterinarian in Scotland to help us with the idea of nature study.  I say “the idea” because one aspect of Charlotte Mason education that I don’t do well is getting outside and really peering at nature.  So we read about nature instead.

Writing

I think this fall I said I would NOT start Hannah in cursive, but she was really rushing in printing and not taking her time, so I got her the New American Cursive book and she’s doing GREAT at it.  It forces her to slow down and really form the letters.  She has learned all 26, and now is working on stringing them together into words.  I love this program and highly recommend it.  I plan to get the software so that I can make copy work pages for her out of the cursive font.  As I mentioned above, Jack is not very good at writing yet, so I try to minimize his written work to keep him from getting frustrated.  I’m glad he’s not in school where writing and other learning is often linked, because he’s a great reader and always knows the answers when we do our work out loud.

History

The kids continue to listen to Story of the World on audio during rest time and when they are going to sleep at night.  I usually ask Hannah to narrate what she heard.  Since they change  out their CDs daily, we’ve cycled through all four volumes of the history a couple of times, and the kids pick up new details each time.  What I really love is how they then apply it to something else we learn or see or hear about.  That shows me that they are really getting it!  Also in history we have learned 96 timeline events from the Veritas Press cards, and 12 history songs from Classical Conversations starting with Columbus.  For our history read alouds we have enjoyed Our Island Story, which is a book of short narratives of British history from ancient times, and also Fifty Famous Stories Retold which tells of events from Roman times and following, as well as a few d’Aulaire history books such as Christopher Columbus, Pochahontas, and Benjamin Franklin.

Geography

The kids learned all of the states and capitals at Classical Conversations this semester, and can outline the map of the United States pretty well.  We are learning major geographical features of the US now.  For our geography read-aloud we’re enjoying Paddle to the Sea, and I will bet that none of the kids will ever forget that Lake Superior is shaped like a wolf’s head!  I, for one, did not know the states and capitals, the geographical features, OR how to identify Lake Superior prior to this semester.  So Mama learns too.  :)

Latin

Classical Conversations has some Latin, which is helpful, but we’re also still working through Prima Latina at home.  We are using it orally this year, and I think next year I will have Hannah go back through it again doing the written exercises.  For now she has a lot of writing to do each day and it seems like too much.  The kids have learned the vocabulary and memory work from the first 10 lessons, and even Sarah can say the Sanctus and the Gloria Patri by heart!  I like that application, and it’s especially nice since we sing the Gloria Patri in English for our bedtime routine, so now they know it both ways.  We also listen to the CD from Song School Latin occasionally.

Classical Studies and Literature

This is an area where the Ambleside list really comes into play.  We have read an Aesop fable every day, and have also been reading Just So Stories, Parables from Nature, the Blue Fairy Book, and selections from Nesbit’s Beautiful Stories from Shakespeare.  Aside from that, we read a lot of great children’s books.  We also have read several chapter books as a family this semester, including The Bears of Blue River, Almost Home, Calico Captive, Carry On Mr. Bowditch, Winnie the Pooh, and now Heidi.

Poetry

We read a selection of poems every day, and this fall we have read through the Around the World on 80 Legs anthology of poems about animals, part of the Random House Book of Poetry, Robert Louis Stevenson’s Child’s Garden of Verses, and A. A. Milne’s When We Were Very Young.  We also read from a Mother Goose book every day, if only because the other kids got that so heavily when they were little and I want to make sure that Sarah knows them too.  Mother Goose is, of course, very good for reading readiness because it teaches rhyming, but also I think that nursery rhymes are a part of a lot of other literature and just a good thing to know.  For poetry recitation we mostly just reviewed what we already know.  Jack is currently working on A. A. Milne’s “Knight in Armour” and Hannah is working on Robert Louis Stevenson’s “Winter-time.”  Sarah knows whatever she picks up (are you sensing up a theme here?)

Music

We have not done as much composer study as I would have liked, but we did cover Beethoven pretty well and watched a lot of YouTube videos of performances of his work.  In Classical Conversations we covered some basic music theory and (sort of) learned how to play tin whistles.  I am not a fan of tin whistle music.  At all.  So I’m glad that next semester is more composer-study based in CC and also that Hannah is going to begin piano lessons in January.  Jack has been clamoring for cello lessons, but we still have not decided if he’s old enough.

Art

We also have not done as much artist study as I would have liked.  In Classical Conversations we learned drawing components, and did a limited amount of artist study, and at home we’ve done artist study here and there.

Bible

In Bible we have continued reading from the Jesus Storybook Bible and learning the children’s catechism as well as Sunday School verses.  Last spring Josh asked why the kids were memorizing these crazy long poems but not longer passages of scripture, so we have also learned Romans 8:1-20 (or so, depending on the kid), and have reviewed John 1:1-18.  Hannah is also working on memorizing Luke 2:1-20 for Christmas.  We’ve also been reading about church history from Trial and Triumph, and the kids have memorized songs for the books of the Old and New Testaments.  I did not get as far as I wanted to with songs, but we did learn Psalm 100B and a few others that we sing regularly, and we reviewed the hymns we learned in the past like This is My Father’s World and Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing.

And that is the semester in review!

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Three

Today Sarah turns three.  Here are three things you should know about Sarah:

1) She is a very fluent talker, but she still has that funny baby way of saying some words.  Like “sumpink” instead of “something” and “paddawan” instead of pattern.  I can’t bring myself to correct her because otherwise she’s such a big girl.

2) She has all sorts of nicknames, and over the past year has taken to deciding which name she will accept for that day.  Last week I came home from work and Sarah said she was Susan.  The babysitter nodded, “She’s been Susan all day.”  She’s a big fan of the name Susan since watching The Parent Trap (she’s only seen it 1 1/2 times total) because we call Sarah lots of “Sue” related nicknames like Sarah-Sue and Susie-joon and Sue-sue and the like.  She   named her best baby doll Sharon to round out the Haley Mills-inspired theme.  Baby doll Sharon is not to be confused with Sherwin, who is one of Sarah’s imaginary friends.  The other one is Ohbert.  Sherwin and Obert live at Costco, but they come around a lot.

3) She likes to pretend to do school when the big kids do.  George Washington is her main man.  Sometime when you see her say “Sarah, tell me about George Washington” and she will sing “Iiiiiiiiiiin 1789 in New York, George Washington was granted the full powers and responsibilities of the presidency by the US Constitution.”  Her second favorite person is “Bawack Obama our 44th Pwesident” whom she thinks is coming to her birthday party.

There are a lot of other things I could say about Sarah and how feisty and funny and adorable she is, but for now I’ll just say happy birthday.  We love you Sarah!

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A really awesome workout

My husband will attest to the fact that I’m sort of a Jillian Michaels groupie.  But only because her workouts WORK.  For my birthday, he got me the latest and greatest Jillian workout,Extreme Shed & Shred. It’s awesome.

The workout is really hard, which is great if you’ve been using other Jillian workouts like The 30 Day Shred, Banish Fat Boost Metabolism, Ripped in 30, or 6 Week 6 Pack.  It’s good to have something new to challenge yourself.  If I’m going to spend time working out, I want to feel like I’m getting something out of it.

You can do level one of the workout, or level two, OR, and this is really fantastic, you can choose to do both workouts back to back.  I love that since what I often do with the other workouts is lump them together – so for example, I will do all three levels of the 30 Day Shred, but skip past the warm-ups and cool-downs of the ones in the middles.  With Extreme Shed & Shred, you don’t have to do all of that skipping around and going back and forth in the menu.  Doing both workouts together gives you a really awesome workout that lasts about an hour and 20 minutes.  Yes, that’s a lot of time, but it’s really, really good.  The individual workouts stand up well on their own too.

If you exercise and want some really good muscle/cardio/ab workouts to add to your mix, I heartily recommend Extreme Shed & Shred.  It might be too late to order it for Christmas unless you live near an Amazon distribution center or have Prime, but you really should try it.  If nothing else, it will be a good jump start to your New Year’s Resolutions.  Assuming that your New Year’s Resolutions include some sort of health/exercise component.  Which they might not.  In any case, this is a stellar workout!

 

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Magi

As I said the first time I reviewed Daniel Gilbert’s book, Magi is “an entertaining story of how the Three Wise Men might have undertaken the journey to present gifts to Jesus. Informed by research into historical sources, Gilbert’s novel has an authentic feel to it, although much of the story is of course based on conjecture.”

My book club is reading this book this month, and so I blazed through it to refresh my memory.  And I do mean blazed – you can read this book easily and quickly, which does make it great for this time of year.  What I liked most about the book was the details.  Since it’s a version of the Christmas story but told from a different perspective, that gave the author a reason to mention details like how Jerusalem looked and how the Temple worked, about Herod, and about the way Joseph and Mary would have lived in Nazerath, without seeming like a data dump.  Although some of the plotting and pacing was problematic, over all I think this is a good book for the holiday season when things can get busy but you still might like to read something now and then.

Moreover, I think it would make a good Christmas gift.  However, since I didn’t get around to reviewing it until now, I don’t know that you could order it in time for Christmas this year (maybe you could, if you live close to where one of the sellers lives, since it’s backordered from Amazon itself).

If you’ve read Magi and plan to be in the Indianapolis area next Wednesday evening, email me and I’ll send you directions to book club!

 

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Do Projects Better

Unless you are in a technology field or know someone who is, I can’t think of a reason why you would pick up a copy of The Rational Unified Process Made Easy, but actually the framework is applicable to projects of all sorts, not just software development, and it can help you be more efficient and effective in lots of areas.  Read on for the details.

Another consultant on my team loaned me the book because of something I’m working on, and I expected to find it a little bit boring, but on the contrary the framework is quite interesting.  Basically, the RUP is  a way to plan and do projects that helps you clarify what you’re trying to do, stay in control of risk factors that could keep you from meeting your goal, do the project and test that your product is effective, and roll it out so it can be effective to others.  Although the book approaches this from the perspective of technology projects, the framework is definitely applicable to other sorts of projects or goals you might pursue.  Here are the main components of RUP, applied more generally:

Inception: take time to define the project. Whether you’re building a huge new system or writing a book or reorganizing your closets, it helps to start with a plan.  What do you want to achieve?  What need will the project address?  What is the scope of the project (that is, when will you stop?  What does finished look like?) Could you work with something you already have or do you need to start from scratch?  What are the risks (thinks that could keep you from meeting your goal or being successful) and what will you do to mitigate them?

Elaboration: flesh out your plan and think it through. Once you have a general definition of your plan, the RUP suggests you think up some scenarios of how your project could play out, how the product might be used, and so forth (these are called “use cases” in the framework) and use those to help you design your product.  So for example, if you’re reorganizing your closet you might think of the ways you use your closet, what sorts of accessories you wear with which clothes in which season, whether or not you are ever trying to get dressed at the same time your spouse is (at our house, we didn’t use RUP when organizing our closet, and that is why I’m always accidentally opening the door right into my husband when he’s trying to access his sock drawer!)  As you elaborate on your plan, you continue to refine your vision and monitor your risks.  Whenever you change your ideas, you might change the factors that could influence whether you will finish on time or within the budget and you’ll need to alter your mitigation plans accordingly.

Construction: do the project in an organized and logical fashion. As you launch into the project or task itself, it helps to be organized.  Refer to the use cases you thought of, and solve for the most critical ones first.  As you go, continuously test your product: ask yourself if it’s meeting your goal, if it’s working, if it’s solving the problem.  If you’re going to need some sort of reference at the end, keep good notes.  In software development, this means working on the manual and tutorials as you go, but in other projects it might mean keeping a log of what paint color you used, the dimensions of the closet, the font you liked, the password you chose for the website, or whatever.

Transition: put it into place and think about what you learned. My tendency is to set up a big project, get all the plates spinning, and then look around for someone to hand it off to.  I really don’t like day to day operations.  But when you’re doing a project or pursuing a goal, it’s important to actually follow through and put the thing into place.  You can design the best blog, but if you never post what was the point?  You can build all sorts of nifty closet organizers into your space, but if you just throw the clothes back in there haphazardly you won’t get the best use of out it.  A good follow-through is key.  Then, after you have the process in motion, take time to think about what you learned.  My mom is a fantastic seamstress, and even had her own smocked clothing boutique when I was little, but she still says she learns something new from every project she tries.  It’s a good practice to identify your lessons learned and use the results for the next thing you move on to do.

And there you have it folks, my attempt at a broadly applicable post about a very very technical book that I can guarantee 99.9% of you would never read.  If you know someone who is a techy person, or involved in IT in some way, you could give them The Rational Unified Process Made Easy for Christmas, but if not, you can rest assured that you now know enough to apply the RUP to your everyday life.  :)

 

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Stand Out

StandOut is a more in-depth look at the “strength types” described in Find Your Strongest Life (link to my longer review of that book) and how to apply your understanding of your strengths in your work and in group situations.  The book does a great job of helping you understand the ways you work best, and is quite insightful in its suggestions for how to leverage your strengths in groups, in leadership, and in selling your products, services, or ideas.

I found the strength leveraging idea particularly helpful.  For example, my main strength type is Advisor, and one facet of that is that I really enjoy breaking complex situations down into components and communicating that to other people.  So the book points out that I’m good at start-up or turnaround type work situations (when you have to assess a huge amount of information and use it to make critical, intense, strategic decisions) but that I should TOTALLY avoid being the person who has to implement the the changes or run existing operations (because I get incredibly bored).  I have found this to be true by painful experience, but haven’t ever really articulated it that way.  I am certainly filing this information away for considering future projects.

I also think it’s helpful to read books like this so I can better understand other people.  Do you ever find yourself on a committee or in a working group and you just don’t get why someone behaves like they do?  It’s so helpful to be able to get inside other people’s heads a little bit to understand how they make decisions and where they feel most comfortable and can best perform.  That kind of insight can make you a better leader, but also just smooths the path a little and gives you better ability to be kind and understanding.

If you’re interested in the strengths idea from Find Your Strongest Life, you might find this book helpful in its more detailed descriptions of the common strength types.  Whether you’re working at a regular job or just happen to work with others in your volunteering or church or family life, you might find the insights in StandOut helpful.

 

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The Meaning of Marriage (a book you really need to read)

If you’re married, or considering ever being married in your lifetime, you need to read this book.

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Compexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God is one of the best, if not THE best, book on marriage I’ve ever read.  And yes, I know I’m given to superlatives in book reviews, but I really think that this book grasps the problems our culture has with marriage in a more cogent and readable way than other books in the genre.

First, Tim Keller is really gifted with understanding the blindspots and temptations of our particular time and place.  He has an insight that just nails the lenses, blinders, and idols we have.  It’s worth mentioning that Christians often (if not always) succumb to the prevailing mindsets of the culture around us, and Keller should be commended for diagnosing that and always bringing us back to what God’s word says about the issue.

In the context of marriage, Keller identifies the pitfalls singles and married people fall into when it comes to thinking about marriage, love, and commitment, and contrasts those with what the Bible says.  He unpacks the ways we are disposed to think, the knee jerk reactionary thinking that also tempts us, and counters with the Gospel.  I just don’t know how you could read this book and not be convicted and challenged on many fronts.

I took a ton of notes, but I know that what stood out to me may not be what stands out to you, so I will just reiterate that The Meaning of Marriage is a superb book and you really, really need to read it.  If you do, or if you have, be sure to let me know what you think!

 

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