1) Everyone forms habits (or achieves goals, or keeps resolutions) differently.
Did you see this quiz about the four tendencies? I love type breakdowns, and this one is particularly helpful to pinpoint how you can change. So many books or seminars imply that there is one RIGHT way to set goals or change your habits, but maybe it’s more individual. What works for one person might not work best for you, and why not work with your natural tendencies rather than against them? Turns out I’m a questioner. I read the long description (you can get the full run-down emailed to you after you do the quiz) to my husband and he agreed that was me to a T. Super interesting.
2) My husband and I are opposite types. And yet, we live.
I had Josh take the tendencies quiz too. And he obliged me because…wait for it….he’s an obliger! An obliger is the complete opposite of a questioner. As far as Meyers-Briggs types go, we’re also opposites, and the in-depth M-B book (Please Understand Me II–highly recommended!) lists us as two types very unlikely to mesh well in a relationship. And yet, here we are, over 11 years later, beating the odds. It’s like that part in Chariots of Fire when the guys are running in slo-mo on the beach, right? We’re getting there. I chalk a lot of it up to a compatible sense of humor. We differ in many, many ways, but we can almost always laugh together, and that’s no small thing.
3) Speaking of marriage, here’s a book I’m not finishing.
I started reading Raney after seeing it recommended in The Little Bookstore of Big Stone Gap. It’s kind of a stream-of-consciousness narrative of a small town couple’s first few years of marriage. You know how when you get married you have to get used to not being self-absorbed and develop your own couple perspective rather than whatever family lens you had before? It’s not always pretty. And I found it sort of annoying to read about. Plus I didn’t see the book as being all that illuminating about small town life or the Carolinas. It seemed a little vapid by page 27 so I let it go. If it’s your all-time favorite, feel free to try to convince me to pick it back up.
4) We picked school back up, and checklists are the revolution!
After a long break, we girded up our loins (metaphorically speaking) (actually now that I think about it we girded them literally too, as I tend to enforce a fairly stringent ban on public nudity) for a new term. I read an article from Sarah Mackenzie about how she’s writing school work checklists in notebooks for her older kids. She says it takes five minutes! Wow! Since my kids love checking things off lists (they get that from me) and seem to see checklists as external authorities not just stuff Mama says to do, I decided to jump on the bandwagon. Except my bandwagon evidently has less going on under the hood than Sarah’s does, because I found that writing out the checklists for my three big kids took me a really long time and I realized I would always be writing the same things every day. Two days of that and I was totally over it. However, the checklists got the kids motivated to do a lot more of their school work, music practicing, and chores independently and also overcame the “golly, nobody told me I had to brush my teeth AGAIN when I just did it YESTERDAY!” syndrome that plagues various and sundry of my children, bless their hearts and unbrushed hair.
So I typed up the checklists, with big squares for checking off items, and nice, big, double-spaced fonts. I also added in their Office Time subject order, so we could avoid time-consuming haggling over whether math or spelling should come first. Y’all, it is magical. The days are going much more smoothly, and even though two work-related crises truncated my teaching time last week, we still got through the assignments. Win.
Breakfast Room/School Room ready for the next day with TYPED checklists
5) Part of the revolution is lagging, though.
One reason why it took me so long to write the checklists is that I do write out everyone’s school work in their notebooks every day. I write their Shakespeare copywork, Bible copywork, their Latin assignments, and their writing and grammar assignments in their daily work notebooks. I like that the notebooks keep everything together, and when we have our Office Time (one-on-one teaching), they add in spelling and Spanish and other subjects. It’s a lot of writing for me though. This year I finally understand why some people pony up the extra $15 for the student books for everything. Hm.
6) However, we are not lagging due to scurvy!
I’m delighted to report that our household risk of scurvy is virtually nil! I was telling a friend about how much produce my kids eat, but didn’t know exact numbers. Naturally the following week I decided to keep notes. In one seven-day period my family (two adults, four kids aged 9, 7 1/2, 6, and 20 months) consumed:
- ten pounds of grapefruit
- eight pounds of oranges
- fifteen pounds of clementines
- fifteen pounds of apples
- six pounds of bananas
- five bunches of celery
- five pounds of baby carrots
- three pounds of broccoli
- six heads of romaine lettuce
- two bags of spinach
- two bags of bell pepper strips
- four pounds of green beans
Citrus is in season (somewhere?) and the children are going hog-wild. I suppose there are worse things. Whenever I have a passing thought about the teenage years to come, I put my fingers in my ears and sing tra-la-la.
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