I do subscribe to the “fake it until you make it” philosophy, and I think I’m a calmer person than I used to be (progress!) but it’s something I struggle with, especially when I am tired or stressed out (so basically always).
In light of that, I was interested to read Brooke McGlothlin’s e-book How to Control Your Emotions So They Don’t Control You. It’s short (just under 50 pages) but full of helpful information and Bible study. I’d say it’s sort of a cross between a Bible study and a non-fiction book, which turns out to be a good mix for this topic.
McGlothlin uses the framework of the Psalms to break down a useful pattern for how to handle frustration and the temptation to lose it: Feel, Know, Do. That is, we can own how we’re feeling, but then we need to take a step back and orient ourselves to the truth of what God says so that we can act in an appropriate way. Breaking these steps down further, McGlothlin offers a lot of practical help for navigating stressful situations with our children, co-workers, friends, and family members, as well as general circumstances. If you’ve read on this topic before you’ll probably recognize some of her frameworks (like not responding in anger, taking time to cool down before responding, don’t be mean, offer love and grace, etc) but I thought she presented them in a strong Biblically-based way that was a helpful reminder for me.
If you’re looking for encouragement and ideas for handling frustrations and difficult situations (especially in parenting, but in other areas of life as well), I’d recommend How to Control Your Emotions So They Don’t Control You.
Disclosure: These are NOT affiliate links, but I did receive a free copy of the book to review.