To be honest, I was a little wary of reading Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe. I was afraid I’d find one of those legalistic books about how to be a perfect wife and mother.
Happily, I found that the book took a realistic and balanced view of motherhood–rather than exhorting moms to tough it out, the authors of Desperate offer hopeful advice for not losing yourself in your kids, accepting help, and finding joy in your family no matter what your work/life situation may be.
I got so much encouragement from this book, taking five pages of notes as I read, that it’s hard to break down the best parts for you, but here are a few of the themes I found most helpful:
- Every family is different, and everyone in your family has a personality that God gave him or her to accomplish His purposes. Because of that, there is NOT one “right way” to do family life. God gives us great latitude in our family’s mission, culture, and priorities.
- We should not live by fear. If we’re focusing on meeting the expectations of others we will fall into legalism and despair, but hope and joy come from being concerned with what God wants us to do rather than what others expect.
- Although the book avoids prescriptive step-by-step plans, the authors give great advice about how to cultivate graciousness and solid relationships with your family, as well as discussions on how to move from desperation to delight in God.
Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe balances encouragement with practical advice that will be helpful for mothers in all sorts of different situations and stages of life. I found it tremendously worthwhile and would highly recommend it.
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