It was bound to happen. After my oh-so-confident “Here’s how I do work-life balance” post last week, the whole thing kind of overflowed its boundaries. A client rebranding/writing project turned out to be more time-consuming than it was originally scoped and required more work time than I anticipated, I wasn’t feeling well, insomnia struck, Jack unexpectedly had two doctors appointments, and the kids developed a mysterious allergy to mathematics.
What do you do when things get unbalanced?
When you work from home, or homeschool, or both, the fact is that balance often…isn’t. The best-laid plans go awry. Again, I don’t have this figured out by any means, but here are a few thing that help me when things get unbalanced:
- Have a schedule, but don’t be a slave to it. I love pre-planning our school weeks, but when we have a hard stretch of days, I remember that we can be flexible. I had initially planned to finish our first quarter last week, but decided to give us all some grace and stretch it into this week. And yet the sun still rose.
- Accept the fact that I can’t do it all. Even if I didn’t do any paid work or homeschool, and even if I only had one child or none at all, I still wouldn’t be able to do it all. This weekend we had a fun outing planned, but a combination of soccer games, a pressing need to mow the lawn so our homeowner’s association wouldn’t take us to court, and my looming deadlines meant we had to skip it. I was sad because it involved archery (yes, in addition to machine guns I have also been rather skilled with a recurved bow in my time) but adding another thing to the mix would have been WAY too much muchness. There is always next year.
- Ask for help. The odd thing about husbands is that they don’t read minds. I don’t know why this still surprises me. Often when I get overwhelmed, it doesn’t occur to me to just ask my husband to do something. And yet, when I do ask, he cheerfully and competently helps. Of course he helps out generally without being asked, but in crunch times it really makes a difference to just say “could you play music with the kids for a bit so I can get through this section of my project?” or “Would you mind handling the kitchen cleanup tonight?”
And maybe balance isn’t all it’s cracked up to be anyway. As Gretchen Rubin points out in Happier at Home (and Anne Bogel echoes in Work Shift), we don’t have to focus on balance, we can focus on filling our lives with things that matter to us. At this stage of my life, my relationships with God and my family, educating my children, and becoming a better writer while honoring my commitments to my clients are more important to me than being a rockstar with a bow and arrow.
Part of being a working, homeschooling mom is giving myself grace to admit that while often everything works out, sometimes I can’t have it all. And that’s just fine.
And now…back to Work Shift!
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I’m curious, when your life gets unbalanced, what things help you keep your head on straight?
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