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Family Matters gave me the opportunity to test out their new program for helping parents understand their kids’ unique strengths and building relationships between parents and kids, The Kids Flag Page. The kit is based on the ideas in Grace Based Parenting and is a fun way for parents to discover things about their kids and for kids to figure things out about themselves.
The kit comes with enough materials for three different children, and includes a book, game board, chart, character trait cards, flag pages, stickers, and instructions. The idea is that the parent and child go through the character trait cards with the child selecting ones that are “always me” “sometimes me” or “never me” and from that you filter down to discovering the child’s main personality traits. Each trait is phrased positively, which will really help kids who are wondering if they are OK just how they are. The fact is, every trait can be either a strength or a weakness, and it’s helpful for parents to learn how to point the child toward the strength.
For kids, I think this project is great because it’s a fun and colorful craft and because it builds relationship with the parent and gives the child confidence and worth.
For parents I think the project is helpful because it will give you insight into what makes your child tick, what strengths to encourage and what pitfalls to avoid, and how to understand that child so you can parent him with grace.
The 168 page book included with the set goes into great detail about the different personality combinations and how to navigate them as a parent. The book would be especially helpful if you have kids whose personality types are very different from your own. I liked the emphasis on moving toward strengths and parenting with understanding.
It may seem like a lot of work to figure out your child’s uniqueness and parent each child according to his or her personality, but Dr. Kimmel points out that doing so really makes things easier for you as a parent. As he says, “chances are, your most difficult child is the one who is least understood by you.”
After going into the specifics of each potential personality combination, Dr. Kimmel gives an overview of grace-based parenting, which will be familiar to you if you’ve read his book on the subject.
The kit is billed for children aged 6-11 and I think that’s probably the age range that would get the most out of it – kids that age are beginning to realize how they are different from others and have a better grasp on their personalities than to younger kids. That said, I went through it with Hannah, who is four and a half, and she grasped the concept. Although she understood what we were doing, I’m not convinced that she got as much out of it as an older child would. As a parent, it was helpful for me to go through the cards with her and get a sense of her strengths based on my own observations, but I think a large part of the benefit of this program is for the child to see how his or her unique makeup can be one of strength rather than just difference. I think I will try the project again when she’s a little older Older kids might also enjoy the assessment portion of the project, even if they aren’t into the craft part.
You can learn more about The Kids Flag Page on the Family Matters website, including a video showing how to use the kit.
Family Matters has graciously offered to give one reader of A Spirited Mind a kids flag page kit.
- To enter, leave a comment letting us know a fun activity you do to build relationships with your kids.
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I’ll select a winner by a random number generator on Monday, June 28, at 1:30pm EST.
Disclosure: Family Matters sent me a Kids Flag Page kit free of charge for me to review, and is giving away an additional kit to one reader. I was not otherwise compensated for this review, and the opinions included are my own. The links on this page are to the Family Matters website and are not affiliate links.