In her fun and helpful book The Marriage Project, Kathi Lipp suggests putting your marriage on “project status” for 21 days – that is, making it a priority for both spouses to do one thing every day to strengthen your marriage and put the fun back in it. For each day there is a manageable project, a little background on the reasoning behind that project, some testimonials from couples who tried it, a prayer suggestion, and a place to record your reaction/response to the project. Kathi suggests making a detailed plan in advance so you can put the projects on your calendar, which I think goes a long way toward actually getting them accomplished if you’re busy and tired like most of us are.
I thought the projects seemed doable and worthwhile – like making a point to do something you enjoyed doing together before you got married, cooking together, writing down things you appreciate or admire about your mate, taking over a duty your spouse dislikes or is burnt out from, and so forth. Basically it’s about making time for your spouse and putting more effort into your marriage. I think any marriage could benefit from a short project like this.
Kathi‘s writing style is funny and laid-back, so I think you’ll find the book enjoyable and a fun read. The Marriage Project is not a theological treatise on marriage, or a theoretical book about the institution, rather it’s a very practical set of things you can actually do starting today to make your marriage stronger, no matter what point you’re starting from. I found the book very hopeful and helpful and I would recommend it to you even if you’ve been blessed with a solid marriage.
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